How to Deal with Fear| By Sarah Koay

Fear creeps in as we lose our confidence and start to doubt. Many times in life we lose our confidence because of the circumstances that we are in.

We can learn from Paul who faced many challenges in the Bible.

In 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NASB), Paul mentioned – But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Knowing this, we can learn from Paul to stay confident and always put our hope in God because one day, all that we are going through right now will come to pass and as long as we walk in God’s ways, we will be able to see victory and let His glory be revealed. 

However, it is always easier said than done, so let’s be really honest for a second.

How often do we go to God first?

God always seems to be the last resort in many of our lives whether we want to admit it or not and whether we realize it or not.

We always try to solve things our way and when things get out of hand and we are at our breaking point, then we go to God. But this should not be the way.

One thing we can do is to admit our fears and our shortcomings to God. 

Run to Him first. Not to your family, not to your friends, and definitely not to social media. Don’t run away from your problems. Don’t run away from God. Run towards Him and face your problems head on. 

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)

The only kind of fear we should have is the fear of God. A fear that regards God with reverence and awe.

“And now, Israel, what does the LORD your God require of you? He requires only that you fear the LORD your God, and live in a way that pleases him, and love him and serve him with all your heart and soul.” Deuteronomy 10:12 (NLT)

It is okay to be afraid at times as long as we know how to go to God and gain our confidence in Him. Even if it means going to Him a million times.

Insecurity Has A Voice| By Jasmine Beard

Insecurity is like a sneaky snake. It presents itself at the least opportune times and masks itself behind pride, cynicalness, and busyness. If we are not careful, we will miss it and mistake it for something else.

Insecurity is the uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.

Insecurity is lurking behind your critical comments of your sister’s new business, best friend’s husband, and maybe of people placed in authority in your life.

I once read a quote that says, “Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?” 

Insecurity always has something to say whether it be about others or ourselves.

One place in my life that insecurity rears its ugly head is in my relationships or in relationships I want to pursue.

I will think to myself, “she doesn’t want to be my friend. I’m not cool enough. I’m not spiritual enough” and so on and so forth! 

We have all been there. We say phrases like these to ourselves:

“I am not enough.”

“I am not pretty enough.”

“She is prettier than me.”

“I am not smart enough.”

“I am too prideful.”

“I can’t wear that.”

“He’s too good for me.”

I cannot tell you how many times I have been on the phone with a friend and he or she is going on and on about something they feel inferior doing or about something or someone they don’t feel good enough for.

But today I want to tell you, whatever your “not enough” is, you must recognize that you are the voice of your insecurity. You are the voice that is stopping you.

Your voice is the reason you have not taken that business venture, called that person to build a friendship, or become the woman God has called you to be. 

Moses is a person in the Bible that I identify with so much. I have had many conversations with the Lord that have mirrored the insecurities, fears and concerns that Moses had.

Exodus 4:8-12 (NLT) gives a great example of these conversations. Maybe you can relate, it reads:

8 The Lord said to Moses, “If they do not believe you and are not convinced by the first miraculous sign, they will be convinced by the second sign.

9 And if they don’t believe you or listen to you even after these two signs, then take some water from the Nile River and pour it out on the dry ground. When you do, the water from the Nile will turn to blood on the ground.”

10 But Moses pleaded with the Lord, “O Lord, I’m not very good with words. I never have been, and I’m not now, even though you have spoken to me. I get tongue-tied, and my words get tangled.”

11 Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord? 

12 Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.”

Even with God giving Moses instruction and telling him that He was with him, Moses still doubted. He still felt inferior despite the security God gave him. He spoke insecure words about himself and neglected all confidence and strength that dwells inside of The One who called him.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NKJV)

The Bible says, God’s strength is made PERFECT in our weakness. It says “PERFECT” my friend, not “just okay” or “not enough”, but perfection.

Sometimes our insecurities are true about us, but our insecurities are never true of God. He uses the weak to do mighty. He uses little to make much.

Stop the self-hatred and self-ridicule and choose today to listen to what God says about you. Let that be the voice that pushes you towards your destiny.

Do not go one more day being the voice that ridicules and criticizes. Choose to listen to the voice of God and let His confidence be your guide in all that you do.

A Different Kind of Confidence| By Sarah Koay

From a young age, I have been quite an introvert. I am quite shy with strangers, but the one thing that I always had with me was my self-confidence.

There are many things that I knew and experienced earlier than my friends that I wish I never knew so early in my life, and I ended up having severe depression and anxiety because of this. However, my confidence was never lost. Somehow, it was still with me even through those years of being mentally unstable.

Now I am free from depression and anxiety (Praise God for his gracious love!), and I am no longer all that shy or as introverted as I used to be. In fact, I am starting to feel more like an extrovert. However, I soon realized that I am losing my confidence.

What is confidence?

Confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

The world tells us to place our confidence in ourselves and our ability to accomplish our goals and realize our dreams. Rich people are often confident in their wealth. The powerful are often confident in their strength and position, the talented often in their talents. But what if we do not have all these?

Confidence is also the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.

However, we are not called to place our confidence in any of those whether we have someone or something that we can rely on or not. We are called to place our confidence in God. It does not mean that we should not have self-confidence.

However, know where your confidence comes from. For the definition that best fits the word, confidence is the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

If our confidence comes from us or our abilities alone, we will lose it when we face challenges or when someone better comes along. So be confident in God and the identity that He (not you or anyone else) has given you.

“You are the one who put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise You because of the wonderful way You created me. Everything You do is marvelous! Of this, I have no doubt.” Psalms 139:13-14 (CEV)

“For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.” Proverbs 3:26 (NKJV)

We know that this is the truth, and we can rely on it because our God does not lie (Num 23:19), and He definitely won’t fail (Jos 21:45; Isa 55:11).

I have yet to find full confidence, but one thing I do know is that the confidence that I have right now is totally different from the one I had in the past. The amount of confidence I used to have cannot even be compared to the quality of confidence I have right now in Christ.