I used to think rejection was my middle name. Growing up, I felt rejected by my dad after my parent’s divorce, and I felt rejected by my high school friends because I was not one to follow the crowd.
The dictionary defines rejection as “dismissing or refusing someone or something.”
Rejection can be seen as an action, but in some of our lives, rejection is seen as an emotion. We no longer see the act of rejection, but we feel and become a person full of rejection. There is a lot of power in that verb when it turns into emotion, but there is someone greater than our fears who has overcome rejection once and for all.
“…he will never leave you nor forsake you. ” Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV)
There was a season in my life where I thought God left me in the wilderness, without a survival kit. I did not hear from Him and for a moment, I stopped seeking Him.
“Lord, do not forsake me; do not be far from me, my God.” Psalm 38:21 (NIV)
I was so afraid of people rejecting me that I began rejecting them first, including God. If I was not rejecting someone, I was giving in to something they wanted me to do so I would not be or feel rejected. It was a circle of lies that I had created, and I could not get out of it. My fear of rejection spiraled out of control, and I then became something I feared more than rejection – LONELINESS.
I was living in a world full of seven billion people, and there I was, completely alone.
Then, a whisper from my heart burst through my sadness,
“I will never leave or forsake you. I will never leave. I have never left. I am here.”
That whisper burned a hole in my heart and let the light back in. I had based my acceptance and self-worth on the opinions of others when my identity is only found in one person – God.
Our identity is not based on whether someone accepts or rejects us, but it is based on the one who gently and beautifully crafted us in His hands. Before the beginning of creation, He thought of you and accepted everything that you are. His acceptance of you is beyond this world’s standards.
You are beautiful because He says so. You are loved because He first loved you. You are held because He does not want to let you go. Who you are is in Him, and you are not of this world.
“For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance.” Psalm 94:14(NIV)
My sister, lift your head up to the one who protects your heart and receives you whether you are in the valley or on the mountain. There is not a neat trick you need to do for God to love you more. There is no amount of sin that will carry you away from God’s love. Feel His hand on your life and receive the peace that you are loved and chosen by our Heavenly Father.
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Something I am thankful for this year that is different than last year….
Sometimes we can get so focused on the busyness of life that we forget how refreshing it is to just get away – away from the noise, away from the distractions and just sit in our secret quiet place, absorbing and rediscovering who Jesus is.
I spent a fair amount of my life constantly wanting to go, or be, or do. When I received more responsibility or territory, I realized how sacred isolation can be in some atmospheres.
Isolation doesn’t always mean loneliness. It can also mean elevation.
Sometimes, He has to take us away in order to lift us higher. Sometimes, He has to quiet our souls so that we may learn to listen. And sometimes, we have to be alone to understand who He is.
A letter to my daughter……
You are too young at the moment to read this or even understand, but my hope is that this letter finds you years from now and gives you a glimpse of my heart.
This thanksgiving is technically our second one together, but last year you were barely a week old. Therefore, this is our first real thanksgiving with family and friends that you won’t be sleeping or nursing the whole time:).
I want you to know sweet girl, that next to Jesus, YOU are what I am most thankful for this year and for every thanksgiving to come. Nothing and no one has brought more joy and love to my life. This adventure we are on, even with all it’s lows and highs, is worth celebrating and being grateful for.
Getting to be your mother and the bond that I was able to form and steward with you has brought me to life in places I was sure was dead. I am thankful to you, for that, even though it’s beyond your comprehension right now.
And know that it truly takes a village, and we have the best one around. We are so blessed with the most amazing friends and family that love and support us and surround us with laughs, hugs, and deep and strong prayers that usher in God’s presence to daily move mountains in our favor. We are beyond blessed and highly favored.
So this Thanksgiving, I will give honor and glory for us where it is due. My prayer is that I am able to show you even in seasons that don’t include the Thanksgiving holiday, how to be grateful because He works it ALL for our good.
I love you my princess, until kingdom come.
Something I am thankful for this year that is different from last year…
“The act of restoring ; renewal, revival, or reestablishment.”
Restoration has always been something I have believed in. I know that I serve a God that can do all things, including the miraculous.
Although I know this, I did not think a relationship with a family member could ever be good. I settled in the fact that while forgiveness had been given, the state of the relationship could never be repaired.
Through my own healing of hurt this year, I was able to see the person who had repeatedly hurt me through a different lens. I no longer saw them as the person who had hurt me continuously, but as a hurt person themselves.
I had to take that person off of the pedestal of expectations I placed on them. I had to simply see them as a child of God. Once I did this, I no longer thought of all the pain they caused me. I instead saw all of their wounds and knew because of their own pain they hurt me.
” Then he asked me, “Son of man, can these bones become living people again?”
“O Sovereign Lord,” I replied, “you alone know the answer to that.”
Then he said to me, “Speak a prophetic message to these bones and say, ‘Dry bones, listen to the word of the Lord!
This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Look! I am going to put breath into you and make you live again!
I will put flesh and muscles on you and cover you with skin. I will put breath into you, and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the Lord.’”’-
Just like these dry bones, God breathed life into my relationship with my family member. Something that was once dead and barren has began to sprout new life. Thank you Jesus!
A letter to my mother……
Words cannot express how thankful I am for you.
I have always loved and appreciated you- I mean, you are my best friend and my flower girl. But this year, you helped guide me into motherhood. You showed me that perfection is not the goal and that you must allow yourself grace. You loved me through the difficult times. When my world felt crushing, you were there to hold me. You reminded me I can do it and that God gave me this new purpose the He would help me fulfill. All this while still being a shining example of motherhood for me, an amazing wife, and learning how to be a mama to my baby boy.
I will always be grateful to you for everything you have done for me and my family. I love you more than words can convey.
Sincerely, Your Sally
Something I am thankful for this year that is different from last year…
Contentment – it is described as “a state of happiness”. I believe the world is always searching for contentment in the tangible things of life such as money, success, life milestones and so forth. If only we could reach that certain goal we have in mind, we would find contentment.
However, this is not the same definition God would like us to use.
The Apostle Paul wrote in Philippians 4:11, “…I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”
As a Christian, my contentment is not determined by my state. My contentment, when anchored in who God is, remains when times are good or bad.
Worldly contentment gives us no reason to better ourselves, but Godly contentment pushes us closer to our source of happiness – God Himself.
This Thanksgiving, I thank God for giving me a “state of happiness” despite circumstances that try to steal my joy.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For me brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.” 1 Timothy 6:6-7