Not Dressed to Impress| By Tori Savoy

Do you ever notice that anytime you step out in public looking disheveled, you will run into every single person you know? It seems to almost be a proven fact – at least that is what I am going with.

During one of my frequent trips to Target, I thought I saw an old friend in the parking lot as I began to walk inside. 

Before I could make out whether or not it was her, I quickly diverted eye contact by pulling out my phone so that I would not be noticed. My hair was dirty and a little wild. My face did not have a lick of makeup. And of course, I was several pounds heavier than the last time I had seen this person.

On top of my appearance, I was having a rough day that had me in not the best attitude. I was not in a place to “perform” and could not avoid coming across as the awkward person I am deep down. 

Instant regret hit me once I made it inside the store. I am unsure if it was even her walking through the parking lot, but I possibly missed out on seeing a friend I would have loved to catch up with because I was so worried about how I was not looking or feeling my best. 

How many times have I missed wonderful encounters with God because I was not “dressed to impress”? 

When I am on a spiritual high and feel as if I fit the makeup of an “ideal Christian”, I will talk to God in a confident way.

On the other hand, when I do not have things together the way I think I should, I tend to talk to Him less. If my attitudes and actions are not exactly perfect, I want to pull out my phone and ignore God. 

“Maybe I will talk with Him tomorrow when I am feeling more spiritually sound,” I basically convince myself.

However, He just wants me to come to Him as I am. We do not have to perform in front of God or put on the appearance of perfection to come before His presence. He wants the raw, naked side of our soul. 

I have probably had so many missed opportunities in His presence because of my tendency to perform and dress up for Him. 

Sure, I have a duty as a Christian to live a holy life, but I do need to be polished before entering His presence. My prayers do not need to be embellished with intelligent words. I do not need to mask my true feelings. I do not need to accomplish a certain number of good deeds before I am worthy of speaking to HIm.  I just need to come as I am so that He can meet me there. 

“All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away.” John 6:37 (NIV)

Don’t miss out on all the new things God wants to share with you just because you do not feel put together enough. There is no shame in the presence of our Father. Our brokenness is where His power and presence will shine through the brightest.

“God doesn’t want something from us, He simply wants us.” -C.S. Lewis

My Grace Is Sufficient| By Tori Savoy

grace“You don’t realize the power of your words,” a man yelled at me in the lobby of a public building.

Back in my journalism days, it was not uncommon for some people to be unhappy with the copy we published in our newspaper. This man just happened to be more passionate than most. He confronted me right before a public meeting and chewed me out for close to 15 minutes. I just let him yell with hopes I could hold the tears in until he was finished with his rant. It turned out, he had not even read the article and had to come apologize to me hours later for yelling at me without gathering all of the facts first.

All of my life I have struggled with insecurity and perfectionism. I will literally beat myself up over every little mistake I make. Similar situations such as this would run through my mind over and over again for days following the incident. Even though that particular incident was not my fault, I still felt as if I had done something wrong.

However, no matter how harsh others have been to me, I have come to realize it is nothing compared to the words I say to myself.

The perfectionist in me is constantly using harsh words to tell myself that I am not good enough.

I am not a good enough wife. I am not smart enough. I am not organized enough. I am not social enough. I am not kind enough. I am not a good enough friend. I am not pretty enough.

I will tell myself things like, “why can’t you just get your life together? You don’t workout enough. Your house is not clean enough. You do not read your Bible and pray enough.”

However, God has been working on my heart in this matter by constantly whispering one little word in my ear, “Grace.”

“But he said to me, ‘’My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”  2 Corinthians 12:9

Grace is a free gift from God that we could never earn. If a perfect God can look on imperfect me with forgiveness and unmerited love, why can’t I give myself grace?

“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8

Accepting God’s gift of grace is one of the most freeing experiences. When I start to beat myself up about mistakes, I remind myself that God’s grace covers me.

Instead of spewing hate and negative words toward myself, I begin to repeat God’s words of love and grace over myself in times of failure.

Perhaps perfectionism is something you can relate to. You are a work in progress, beautifully broken.


One of my favorite quotes is by American playwright Eugene O’Neill

“Man is born broken. He lives by mending. The grace of God is glue.”

Rather than striving for perfection, let the perfect grace of God cover you. He wants all your broken pieces just the way they are. Embrace all of the imperfections and welcome in grace.

“But where sin increased, grace abounded all the more.” Romans 5:20

Miss Know It All| By Jasmine Beard

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“Know it all.”

“Bragging Brat.”

These are just two of the phrases that ran through my mind when I thought of my new friend. I know it sounds harsh, but it was definitely my perception at the time.

I had just started a new school and hoped to meet new people with similar beliefs and interests.

I finally met a friend. She was pretty, appeared happy, and, most importantly, she was a Christian.

Bingo, I found my friend, my person, my bff for life…

But after awhile my new friend, well, she aggravated me.

I would ask God, “why does she talk about herself so much? Why does she act like she has the answers to everything?”

He had a simple response, as He normally does.

He said, “Just love her.”

Needless to say, God’s response baffled me. Love her? What do you mean love her, Jesus? She seems loved enough to me, and according to her, she’s really got it going on.

This is the exact same way we can act towards God. We come into his presence and babble and complain about the precious life He has given us. We think everyone else is the problem, when the real issue is us.

We like to think we have it all together and that we know everything. Thankfully we serve a God that is all knowing and is SO merciful.

In Luke 23:34 (NIV), Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

Instead of holding our behavior over our heads, God chooses to love us, forgive us, and gently point us in the right direction.

You see, “Miss Know It All” and “Miss Has It All” really didn’t have it all or know it all. On the inside, just like all of us, she was a broken girl covering a life riddled with her own insecurities.

I don’t know about you, but that’s a person I can relate to, a person I can sympathize with.

People are hardly what they appear to be on the outside. We often put on a masquerade of what we want others to believe about us, and omit the parts in our lives we don’t want seen.

So, the next time your friend, acquaintance, co-worker, or spouse’s persona is screaming pride, know that they could just be broken inside – just like you, just like all of us.

Instead of being judgmental, simply choose to love them and extend grace to them as Christ has done for you.

“If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love beats all things, believes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:3-7