Label Me Not| By Stephanie Cain

Have you ever lost yourself? You travel through life, days flying past like exits on an interstate, and all of a sudden, you realize you need to Google Map how to find you – the real you.

I think everyone has been there at one point or another. We live in a world where everyone wants to fit into these perfect boxes. The thing is, we are not designed like that. Each person is so multifaceted! We are all complex, beautiful, masterpieces handcrafted in God’s image. (Psalm 139:13-16) So we put on labels to help clarify what is in our box.

Mother. Daughter. Sister. Wife. Caretaker. Housekeeper. Big. Tall. Short. Sassy. Quiet. Bookish. Athletic. Loud. Friendly. Not-so-friendly. Giving. Driven. Selfish. Professional. Hippy. Glamorous. Natural. Happy. Anxious. Funny. Boring. Weird. Popular. Loner.

By the time we put on all these labels that are meant to help “define us”, we cannot even tell what was in the box to begin with.

I struggle with this SO much! I am a relatively newlywed, new part-time working and part-time stay-at-home mom, and the only child to two wonderful parents who have illnesses and need help. I feel the weight of these labels daily. The pressure to be a great mom, and feeling like if I am not, I might ruin this gift God gave me. Wanting so badly to be a loving wife who keeps her house in order for her husband. Knowing that there is work to be done at my house, but also that my parents’ grass needs to be cut soon. Desiring to be fun and outgoing like other young moms even though you are an introvert. Striving to be skinny so the new cute trends will look good on you. Trying to have a meek, quiet spirit with a mouth that runs faster than a cheetah at times.

In the struggle to live up to these labels, I lose sight of me – the me that God made and saw as good. There is no labels, no hoops, no striving. He sees me, knows me deeply, and loves me unconditionally no matter how many dishes are in my sink.


“Then, by constantly using your faith, the life of Christ will be released deep inside you, and the resting place of his love will become the very source and root of your life.
Then you will be empowered to discover what every holy one experiences—the great magnitude of the astonishing love of Christ in all its dimensions. How deeply intimate and far-reaching is his love! How enduring and inclusive it is! Endless love beyond measurement that transcends our understanding—this extravagant love pours into you until you are filled to overflowing with the fullness of God!” -Ephesians 3:17-19 (TPT)

My Facebook friend Leslie, who happens to be an amazing writer, recently posted something that stopped me in my tracks. She said this:

“We need grace to sit in a space and just BE…to remove the titles and responsibilities and roles and embrace the one identity that brings rest to the soul, ‘Child of God.’ We don’t have to strive with that name. We can fully and overwhelmingly just BE. He welcomes it.”

When I read those words, I realized how weighed down I was feeling from trying to be everything for everyone. When in reality, the most important thing I am is a Child of God. Walking in that calling will make everything else fall in line. So if you are where I was, one step away from asking Alexa how to find you, please take a moment to just BE, to remember who the Lord says you are, and to rest in Him.

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Searching For My Identity| By Tori Savoy

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Who am I?

Have you ever looked in the mirror and asked yourself this question? Or laid awake in bed contemplating what defines you?

For me, this question really hit me hard right after college. I was diagnosed with a health condition that impacted my mind and my emotions. The hobbies that I once loved, I no longer had the desire or energy for. Many of the areas I excelled in became some of my biggest weaknesses.

The only thing I knew about myself was that I had Hashimotos, and that it made me hate myself. I felt as if I walked around with “Hashimotos” stamped on my forehead. It became the only thing I talked about because it engulfed the majority of my life.

When you’re at a point that low, it is so easy for the devil to stoop in and attack your weakness. I was meditating on who I was, and the enemy started to hurl his false lies at me.

“You are worthless. You are a downer. You are a burden to everyone around you. You will never be more than walking sickness,” he’d whisper to me.

And the lies just kept getting worse and worse.

But deep down, I knew these were lies, despite how true they felt. I cried to God “Who am I really? Who do you think I am?

You are a CHILD OF GOD!

I immediately began to cry.  Those words were so freeing for me.

“See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God” 1 John 3:1

“And if children, then heirs – heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.”  Romans 8:17

Society has a way of placing stigmas or labels on us by categorizing who we are into negative groups such as nerdy, preppy, dumb, smart, goofy, quiet, fat, skinny, etc.

However, God looks on us and sees His child, each of us unique and just the way He created us to be.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

As His child, He sees me as more than just another human on this earth, and I have access to all of the benefits that come along with it. The few that immediately pop into mind are chosen, protected, and loved.

Instead of wearing negative labels society gives or the ones I give myself, I can choose to proudly live as His child by being joyful, caring, loving, forgiving, and all of the things that He is. When people meet me, I want them to know that I belong to Him.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is. All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure”John 3:1-3