Millennial Mom, a Million Worries| By Tori Savoy

I always knew motherhood could be overwhelming, but little did I know that it began as soon as you become pregnant.

I thought, “I have a whole nine months to prepare.” 

However, nine months is not enough. 

There are so many things to consider and worry about when it comes to growing a life inside you. They tell you to keep your weight within a certain range, and each time you step on the scale you want to cry in defeat. My pregnancy book says to eat at least 8 servings of fruits and vegetables a day to make sure my baby gets the proper nutrients. I start each day planning to do this, but in the beginning, the nausea was overwhelming and all I wanted was to drive and get some french fries. Now that I am later in my pregnancy, I am too tired to grocery shop or meal prep. 

Somehow I expect myself to workout just as hard and often as I did before pregnancy. Several other moms have done it, right? But what about this paralyzing headache, lack of energy, and oh, the occasional cramps? Could I hurt my baby more with my intense workouts?

The mom guilt is real, and the pressure is on.

Then there are all the things to consider for when the baby arrives. What carrier is safest? Breastfed versus formula? Is your baby’s mattress free of chemicals? 

Do not even ask for other mom’s opinions on the best stroller, you will get 20 completely different suggestions. 

Preparing for motherhood is even more stressful in this day and age with social media glamorizing motherhood or trolls demeaning mothers on their choices. Not to mention the ever-changing research you can find online for just about every topic.

Be sure to get your vaccines while pregnant and have everyone around you vaccinate, or you are dooming your child to death. 

Having a son? Be ready to be mom-shamed or called a “monster” over your circumcision choice. 

Bonus points if you post a breastfeeding photo to your instagram to empower women. 

However, be ready for negative comments no matter what side of these arguments you fall on. 

Before you know it, your due date is quickly approaching, and your to-do list is several pages long. You have baskets full of clothes to wash (who knew you needed to wash brand new clothes??), last minute items to shop for, and your “pinterest-perfect” nursery to complete. 

With all these lists and expectations, it is so hard to enjoy the beauty that comes with pregnancy like the sweet little kicks, imagining who your little one will grow up to be and who he/she will look like, and the excitement of becoming a mother. 

While I am a fan of making lists, sometimes it really does take some of the fun out of things.

I must admit, it is so easy for lists, expectations and other people’s opinions to directly impact my everyday walk with God. 

I make lists of how I think I need to live my life (30-minutes of intimate worship, three Bible chapters a day, long-drawn out prayer time). But ultimately, this can quickly become overwhelming, and also puts God in a box.

I can easily spend hours reading other people’s opinions on God’s word, Christian life, and even politics. When I compare my Christian walk with others, I either end up feeling prideful or incompetent, quite like when we compare ourselves to other mothers.

Instead, I should be soaking up every moment God has created. While He is in that 30-minutes of quiet time I set aside, I have to be always listening in the simple and mundane tasks of each day. 

Sometimes, we just need to throw out lists, expectations and the opinions of others that so easily overwhelm and just soak up the beauty of being a child of God. 

Psalms 46:10, God says “Be still and know that I am God.”

He is there in the stillness, not the checklists that keep us busy or our ability to be a “perfect Christian.”

Whether you are overwhelmed by pregnancy and motherhood, or your walk as a Christian, I want to encourage you to just take a moment to soak up each and every moment. Deplug from your mommy forums or pull away from those to-do lists. You are doing the best you can, and what matters the most is that you are present in the moment. 

Your child is not going to spontaneously combust because you do not use 100 percent organic products, and God is not going to strike you down because you chose to skip tonight’s reading for some much needed worship time.

Your child needs your affection more than a spotless house, and God wants your heart over how many chapters you can breeze through in your Bible plan. 

Drop the lists and all the overwhelming opinions, and be still. You got this momma! 

“When I am overwhelmed, you alone know the way I should turn.” Psalms 142:3 (NIV)

Overcoming Insecurities| By Christina DePino

Insecure

adjective 

1. not firmly fixed; liable to give way or break.

2. (of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious.

No one likes to admit to feeling insecure. But for many of us, it is a daily struggle. 

Social Media is probably one of the biggest contributors to these feelings of inadequacy. We see the seemingly perfect lives portrayed on our screens and begin to wonder where we went wrong. 

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick 

Recently, there has been a movement for transparency on social media. It has become trendy for social influencers to show the un-edited sides of their lives.This movement is meant to promote self-love and acceptance. It encourages everyone to feel confident that their best is good enough.

While this movement is certainly a step in the right direction, the reality is that our best is not good enough. (Romans 7:18) However, the good news of the gospel is that we do not have to be good enough because it is not about works. (Ephesians 2:8-9) 

The battle we are fighting was already won, through the work done by Jesus on the cross. The only thing left for us to do is to accept the gift of freedom that we have been given. (Acts 13:39, Romans 3:24-26, Romans 6:23) 

When we come to the realization that our works are not good enough, we stop trying to earn our way. We learn to rely on God. That sure takes the pressure off, doesn’t it? We don’t have to struggle with anxiety, depression or insecurity. All we have to do is hand it over to God.

So you may be saying “That’s great and all, but how do we go from knowing this, to actually putting it into practice?”

For many of us, our insecurities began because of something that someone said to us. It may have been an off-handed comment or intentional verbal abuse, but those words have no real power over us until we begin to dwell on them. 

The things we say to ourselves hold more power than anything that anyone else could ever speak over us.

So what do you do when you feel that you are not good enough? 

Overcoming insecurities is about simply speaking God’s truth over our lives. We have to start replacing these negative self-thoughts with truth from God’s word. 

LIE: I am unlovable. 

TRUTH: I am exceedingly loved: Romans 5:8, John 3:16-17

LIE: I have made too many mistakes in the past, there is no hope for me. 

TRUTH: I am free from condemnation: Romans 8:1

LIE: I’m stupid / I’m not smart enough. 

TRUTH: I have the mind of Christ: 1 Cor. 2:16, Phil 2:5

LIE: I am all alone.

TRUTH: The maker of the universe has chosen me to be his friend: John 15:15 

The key to overcoming insecurity is simply this: Are you going to believe God when He tells you who you are?

I love the new song “I Am Who You Say” by Hillsong Worship. The chorus is right in line with what we are talking about here, and I love singing this song as a reminder of who God says I am.  

Chorus: “I am chosen not forsaken, I am who you say I am.”

I created the below graphic as a daily reminder. If you’re reading this on your phone, take a screenshot and pull it out whenever you need a reminder.