Overcoming Insecurities| By Christina DePino

Insecure

adjective 

1. not firmly fixed; liable to give way or break.

2. (of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious.

No one likes to admit to feeling insecure. But for many of us, it is a daily struggle. 

Social Media is probably one of the biggest contributors to these feelings of inadequacy. We see the seemingly perfect lives portrayed on our screens and begin to wonder where we went wrong. 

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steven Furtick 

Recently, there has been a movement for transparency on social media. It has become trendy for social influencers to show the un-edited sides of their lives.This movement is meant to promote self-love and acceptance. It encourages everyone to feel confident that their best is good enough.

While this movement is certainly a step in the right direction, the reality is that our best is not good enough. (Romans 7:18) However, the good news of the gospel is that we do not have to be good enough because it is not about works. (Ephesians 2:8-9) 

The battle we are fighting was already won, through the work done by Jesus on the cross. The only thing left for us to do is to accept the gift of freedom that we have been given. (Acts 13:39, Romans 3:24-26, Romans 6:23) 

When we come to the realization that our works are not good enough, we stop trying to earn our way. We learn to rely on God. That sure takes the pressure off, doesn’t it? We don’t have to struggle with anxiety, depression or insecurity. All we have to do is hand it over to God.

So you may be saying “That’s great and all, but how do we go from knowing this, to actually putting it into practice?”

For many of us, our insecurities began because of something that someone said to us. It may have been an off-handed comment or intentional verbal abuse, but those words have no real power over us until we begin to dwell on them. 

The things we say to ourselves hold more power than anything that anyone else could ever speak over us.

So what do you do when you feel that you are not good enough? 

Overcoming insecurities is about simply speaking God’s truth over our lives. We have to start replacing these negative self-thoughts with truth from God’s word. 

LIE: I am unlovable. 

TRUTH: I am exceedingly loved: Romans 5:8, John 3:16-17

LIE: I have made too many mistakes in the past, there is no hope for me. 

TRUTH: I am free from condemnation: Romans 8:1

LIE: I’m stupid / I’m not smart enough. 

TRUTH: I have the mind of Christ: 1 Cor. 2:16, Phil 2:5

LIE: I am all alone.

TRUTH: The maker of the universe has chosen me to be his friend: John 15:15 

The key to overcoming insecurity is simply this: Are you going to believe God when He tells you who you are?

I love the new song “I Am Who You Say” by Hillsong Worship. The chorus is right in line with what we are talking about here, and I love singing this song as a reminder of who God says I am.  

Chorus: “I am chosen not forsaken, I am who you say I am.”

I created the below graphic as a daily reminder. If you’re reading this on your phone, take a screenshot and pull it out whenever you need a reminder.

When Following Christ Becomes Hard| By Tori Savoy

Christianity has been a part of my life since I accepted Christ into my heart at the age of five. Yet, sometimes being a Christian is still difficult for me.

From the outside looking in, it may appear I have it all together and that I am happy. Yes, I have unspeakable joy my Savior has given me, but I still have my off days, or sometimes months.  

Sometimes I catch myself going through dry spells where I am not as devout to spending time with God as I would like to. I will begin to compare myself to other Christians around me and feel as if I am not as good at this “Christian thing” as I have led myself to believe. My failure consumes my mind and makes me want to run away and never return. However, my faithful and loving Savior always ushers me back in.

I have found since becoming part of a ministry that the enemy likes to attack me all the more in this area and tell me I am not fit to be sharing my testimonies with the world. His attacks make me feel as if I am not a good model of what Christianity is suppose to be.

However, God tells me differently. Christianity is merely a sinner making the choice every day to lay their sins at the feet of Jesus and share His love and forgiveness with the world.

Jesus’ disciples are a prime example that being a follower of Him is not always easy, but that we do not have to be perfect to be transformed and used by Him.

I have often time caught myself embracing my failures like Judas, who betrayed Jesus for worldly treasure. Judas’ regret following the betrayal drove him to the point of taking his own life.

Sometimes, my guilt for not being a “better” Christian causes me to avoid any contact with God.  This results in severe depression for me when all I need to do is bring my failures before a forgiving Savior to start all over – just as the apostle Peter did.

Peter is one of my biggest reminders of God’s faithfulness to use someone imperfect like me. He was one of God’s most devout followers, and yet, He failed God on numerous occasions.

He walked on water with God in the midst of the storm, but began to sink as soon as His doubt set in. Still, He was the only disciple who even tried to step on the water in the middle of the storm.

Despite being warned of God of his upcoming unfaithfulness, Peter still denied having any association to Christ. Although I have never denied my Christianity, I know many times I may sugar coat it or just not mention my Christianity to those around me.

Luckily, we are never too far gone or have made so many mistakes that God cannot shape and mold us to use you and me for His glory.

After Jesus ascended into Heaven following the crucifixion and resurrection, Peter preached to people from all over and won many souls to Christ. He died a martyr for the name of Jesus.

“And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” Philippians 1:6 (NIV)

Just because you started off making mistakes does not mean that is where it ends for you. We can let our failures define us or give them to God and let Him define us. We can let our failures become a testimony, or allow them consume us to the point of spiritual death.

God never asked for perfection, but that we continue to follow him. Yes, following Him will be hard, and we will have to pick up our cross daily. However, He can turn our mess into a great message.

Today, I challenge you to be open with God about your shortcomings so he can make something beautiful with them. Do not try to outrun a Savior that is standing there for you with arms wide open.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross,scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” Hebrews 12:1-3 (NIV)