Kind Words are Like Honey| By Jasmine Beard

“You are such an accepting person. I know and feel like I can tell you anything,” my friend said.

I smiled and thought to myself, “If only she knew all the thoughts and judgements I thought of throughout the day. My heart is not pure. I wish I wasn’t judgemental. I’m so far from where I should be in my walk with God.”

You read that correctly. Someone gave me a compliment, and instead of receiving it, I rejected their words and reversed what they spoke over me. Instead of allowing the words of affirmation and blessing to sink into my mind, heart, and spirit, I let who I believed I was to sink into my mind, heart, spirit, and eventually into my identity.

I wish I could say this type of dialogue was a rare happening in my life, but truthfully it is far more common than I would like to admit. And what is even more hard to admit is that I am only now just realizing it.

“I’m so mean to myself and because of the way I view myself, I tend to judge others through that same lens,” I listened on the other end of the phone as another friend shared those words with me. Her words did not resonate with me immediately, but overtime I understood more and more what she meant.

Behaviors, circumstances, and interactions can become familiar to us. And when something becomes familiar, it does not appear abnormal. Take for instance, a woman’s husband has been wearing the same cologne for the last six years. After six years, she may not even smell the fragrance, but simply identify the smell with her husband. However, let’s say that same woman’s husband walked in their home wearing a different cologne than the one he had wore for the past six years, and she’d probably notice instantly.

This same familiarity can be true in our dialogues with ourselves. We can get so use to speaking harsh words to ourselves that we no longer see them as harsh, but as normal. The reality is that the words we speak to ourselves can be anything but normal and are actually cruel and self-loathing behavior.

It was not until my friend mentioned to me how mean she was to herself that I began to notice my very own self-loathing behavior. I have always chalked my inner dialogue with myself to have something to do with my perfectionist mindset and less to do with my self-esteem and value of myself.

The Bible tells us that, “kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” Proverbs 16:24 (NLT)

Are your words like honey?

Are they sweet to your soul and bringing nourishment to your body?

Are you the person who can shower others with compliments, but can’t receive one?

Do you smile and immediately disregard the kind comment someone has relayed to you?

This was me, and it may be you today. But friend, I want to encourage you to fall in love with you, the person you are today, not the woman you aspire to become. Fall in love with the journey. And most importantly, fall in love with the King, the King of kings and Lord of lords.

His word tells us that we are made in His image. We are a reflection of His splendor and beauty, and as we fall more in love and awe with the King, the more we reflect His marvelous light.

So when you find that you have nothing kind to say to yourself or about yourself pray what the Psalmist wrote in Psalms 139:14 (TPT)

“I thank you, God, for making me so mysteriously complex! Everything you do is marvelously breathtaking. It simply amazes me to think about it! How thoroughly you know me, Lord!”

Did He Really Just Say That?| By Rachel Lukinovich

 

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You know that saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”?

In my experience, thats a big fat lie! Words can build us up, and words can tear us down. Some words are meant to insult, while others are meant to just be funny and harmless.

There has been several times that people have made remarks, and my internal response was “Did they really just say that?”

Like two simple words, “chatty Cathy.” A distant family member of mine made that comment toward me when I just a small girl.  It doesn’t sound like a big deal, but that little 5-year-old girl took those words to heart, and I still remember them today.

Even at a young age, I knew this was truth about myself – a truth that I didn’t want to be true. What was likely meant as a funny friendly comment, I took as “you talk too much, and you need to change.”

So often, people’s words and comments hit places deeper in us than they were likely intended to. Did the person making the comment truly mean to offend us or affect us the way they did?

Maybe, but likely not. Regardless, their words should not be what defines us.

Just like we all know the power of words, the devil does too, and he’s constantly twisting people’s comments and replaying them to make us feel unwanted and less than.

Yet, what the enemy sneakily tries to use to ruin us, God intends to use for good and His glory.

Did I really need to change? Only the truth of God’s word could reveal that to me. Only He could expose the lies of the enemy, and help me believe, accept, and begin to love what is true.

The Lord declared over me~

“The enemy only comes to rob, steal, and destroy, but I come that you have life & life abundantly.” John 10:10

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.” Song of Solomon 4:7

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5

Did He really just say that? Yes! And His words are truth, designed to fill every crevasse in our being with what it needs. When we choose His words, we choose power to walk in the grace He has called us to, just the way He so beautifully made us.

When I chose to let His words become what affects me most, the words people have said about me no longer affect me the same.

Being a “chatty Cathy,” isn’t all that bad when you’re able to talk to anyone and help people feel more comfortable. Thank you Jesus for that revelation!

What words are affecting you today? I encourage you to let Jesus’ words of truth be what resounds in your mind day and night because yes, He really did just say that.